The Momsey

It has been just over two years since becoming The Momsey. The name, whimsical and somewhat mystical, was used by a young lady who fought for her right to become a part of our family. She is our son’s girlfriend, an aspiring singer/songwriter, and lover of physics. ... In 2010 she, this 18-year-old young lady, performed at a Fundraiser at Massey Hall, and opened for Burton Cummings -one of Canada’s music legends- at another charity event.  ‘Lucy’ was totally humbled by the experience, especially, when she found out who 'he' was!

Anything I said or did was critiqued by this unusual young lady in superlative tones. Day in day out, it was “What a Momsey”, “You’re so beautiful”, “ You're so smart” and everything in between.  I was both flattered and bemused by her rhetoric. Who says this to a middle aged woman, mother or not?   Yet, it was great for my ego. ... (After a certain age, women need all the ego they can get!.)

While reading the newspaper one day about new stay-at-home moms writing blogs about their daily lives, it occurred to me that, perhaps, I needed to share some of my life that could be of help to others. Though I was not a writer or blogger, I had experiences, insights and wisdom, worth sharing.  (Had common sense left us, I wondered, now that the internet is here to guide us, every step of the way?) We must be in charge of our own decisions, dismissing all who would have us spend, eat and react endlessly, according to their doctrine.  As Lucy’s boyfriend, my son, said to me many times, ”Your life might be ordinary mom, but you're not!” My son designed the colourful website, creating a composite caricature of me. He is many things: a film director,- (a studio unto himself) - musician, song and script writer, special effects genius, animator, sculptor, painter, film school graduate and lover of physics. His background in the arts - on a major scale - helped propel me in the direction I now find myself. Lucy, singer and songwriter, became my editor.

There were many stories to tell and with a built in fan base of 6, I began the blog, “The MomseyBlog”, at the young couple’s insistence. Their encouragement spurred me into writing. Lucy is now my boss, my blog editor and expects me to write/post my thoughts once a week.  Though I know nothing about how to post, my boss is teaching me, she having taken a two year computer course at the tender age of 10. (By July of 2012, I finally learned to cut and paste. It was all so new to me.) By the following year - 2013 - I 'cut and paste' from another location as my personal life demands it: a very lovable 13 year old retriever needs my ongoing attention. I cannot disappoint the love of my life. Blogging is a part of my life not my life.

Keeping things simple with defined boundaries, helps reduce the life's complexities, as they arise. More favourable outcomes, with fewer financial consequences, will occur. When in doubt, I wait. Time usually takes care of the final decision. The key players in my life have helped create the Momsey, the reason I blog. It helps define who I am. Without my human and animal family, I would just be another very boring, stale old lady who loves music, loves to dance and eat dessert!